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Everyday Inner Peace Radio – Special Event – Aurora Winter

Everyday Inner Peace Radio

presents...

LIVE Interview Recording with Host Mary Allen

Special Guest

Aurora Winter

January 27th, 2009

5-6:30pm Pacific (8-9:30pm Eastern)

TO REGISTER for this No Cost Call visit... http://www.lifecoachmary.com/aurorawinter.htm

* Are you sometimes at a loss for words to help your coaching clients or your friends?

* Do you wish you had better skills to help your coaching client or friend who is devastated by divorce, death, or another heartbreak? * Would you like to learn the recipe for helping yourself – and others – go from heartbreak to happiness more quickly and easily? Then you won't want to miss the first live *Everyday Inner Peace Radio* SPECIAL event with my extraordinary friend AURORA WINTER. I'll soon be sharing more about my new *Everyday Inner Peace Radio* Show with http://www.exceptionalwisdomradio.com, a weekly radio show featuring authors, experts and real people who experience inner peace in extraordinary life situations. Throughout the year, there will be 4-5 SPECIAL opportunities where YOU can eavesdrop in on the radio show recording...and participate by asking your questions of our guest. Today...*Tuesday, January 27th at 5pm Pacific* (8pm Eastern) is our FIRST ever live radio taping with AURORA WINTER. And, you can attend at no cost to you. I'll be there with you, learning how to support others and myself in dealing with grief, and going from Heartbreak to Happiness. More about Aurora and Coaching Clients in Crisis Formerly a film and TV executive producer, Aurora Winter has been heard by over a million people on the topic of healing heartbreak and creating a life filled with true happiness. She is on the board of directors of the International Coaching Federation, writes a regular column for Awareness Magazine, co-stars with Bernie Siegel in the upcoming movie "What If." She is the founder of www.GriefCoachAcademy.com. When someone blurts out a devastating fact, such as, "My son was just killed in a car crash" – how you respond in the next few seconds will mean the difference between making a friend for life—or being relegated to the outer circle forever. In such moments, there is no time to prepare. The time to prepare is now. In this radio interview, Aurora Winter give you practical tools to deal with anyone who is devastated by death, divorce, disease, or another heartbreaking loss. Aurora will share: * How it's possible to find inner peace during and after a significant loss. * Top 10 best and worst things to say to someone who is heartbroken – never be at a loss for words again. * 5 devastating myths that steal happiness and prolong heartbreak – how to avoid these common traps and avoid unintentionally injuring yourself, your friend, or your coaching client. * 3 powerful steps to coaching your friend or client through heartbreak or emotional crisis. * 3 tell-tale signs that you should refer your client to a more experienced professional. * 5 essential steps to helping yourself – or others -- go from heartbreak to happiness more quickly and easily. Aurora Winter is the author of "From Heartbreak To Happiness: An Intimate Diary of Healing" which reveals her process of healing after her 33-year-old husband died suddenly, leaving her widowed with a 4-year-old son. DR. WAYNE DYER endorsed Aurora's book, saying, "I read every page of this beautiful diary – it touched my heart and I'm sure it will impact yours." Visit www.FromHeartbreakToHappiness.com to get your own copy of this complimentary ebook. Aurora founded The Grief Coach Academy because she's passionate about helping people move through heartbreak quickly, whether they're heartbroken due to death, divorce, or another major loss. There are an estimated 50 million heartbroken people in the US, so it will take many coaches to serve this need, and guide people from heartbreak to happiness. To find out more about becoming a certified coach, visit: http://www.aurorawinter.com/certification.htm Testimonials From People Just Like You That Aurora Has Helped: "Coaching with Aurora changed my life! I'm so grateful that I ordered a custom license plate: THXRORA." - Li Ransom, young widow, Tacoma, WA "Within 1 session of coaching with Aurora, my life has changed. She's the most powerful mix of soul and business savvy that I've ever met." - Alana Pratt, Radio Host, LA, CA Aurora is also featured in the February 18, 2008 issue of "Woman's World" magazine, and writes a regular column for "Awareness" magazine. I hope you can join us for this informative call! We will open the line to questions at the end, so that you will have an opportunity to ask Aurora YOUR question about going from heartbreak to happiness. The first three people to ask a question will receive a complimentary copy of Aurora's CD "10 Keys to True Happiness." Filed under SPECIAL OFFERS | Comment (0)

Inner Peace: New Year Creation – Process #4

Over the last week, we've been talking about ways to "emotionally connect" with your vision.  We talked about Treasure Mapping, writing your visions and visualizations. Today we're focusing on... Process #4 - FINDING A THEME What is your theme for the New Year 2009? This is not about your resolutions or specific goals with "do by" dates. This is your vision or dream for the upcoming year. What do you feel energy and excitement around? What engages your imagination and feels compelling? The beauty in adopting a theme is it naturally engages the senses unlike traditional "in the head" goal-setting. This does not have to be a linear process. You may use one or more of the ideas that become stimulated from the questions below. Select a theme for 2009. You may want to create an inspiring atmosphere to do this exercise in – i.e. candles, music, nature, by a fire, etc. Have FUN with this process!

• If your vision were a piece of music, what piece would it be?
• If your vision was from nature what would it be? (Tree, ocean, brook….)
• What does it taste like?
• What does it smell like?
• What other senses can you use to develop your vision?
• What if your vision was a thousand times bigger? Describe what it would be.
• Use a metaphor to describe your vision.
• Are you forcing anything? Where can you ease off?
• What can you take less seriously?
• Are there any old rules you are holding on to? What can you eliminate?
• How would a six-year-old describe your vision?
• Ask yourself some "what if" questions. What if I ______?
• Add one outrageous or wacky element to your vision.

Now that you've been exposed to all FOUR processes, which resonates with you? You may gravitate toward one them, or try them all. Each process engages the senses in a unique way. The first step is taking the time to clarify and refine your vision - and FULLY ASSOCIATING EMOTIONALLY with that vision. That alone can be effective at creating unbelievable momentum throughout the year. Secondly, super-charge your visions by revisiting your treasure maps, written goals and visions, themes or spend time visualizing - CONSISTENTLY. While you may utilize one of more of these processes in creating your vision, I recommend selecting ONE process to revisit on a regular basis. That means monthly, weekly or ideally daily. The more often you connect to your vision emotionally, engaging your senses, the more quickly you are likely to experience it reality. Try it. May 2009 be your best year ever... I'll be sharing more about my new theme for 2009...stay tuned. Filed under Inner Peace 101, Inner Peace Strategies | Comment (1)

Inner Peace: New Year Creation – Process #3

On Friday, I talked about writing your visions onto paper in a very descriptive way, usually language that allows you to "emotionally connect" with your vision. Remember, the most important element in crystallizing your vision is finding a medium that allows you to connect "emotionally" to your vision. Today we're focusing on... Process #3 - VISUALIZATIONS Using the power of your mind to cultivate and embody your vision is a powerful resource. Once again, the more detail and emotion you can FEEL and bring to life in your body, the more effective it is in eliciting the inspiration, creativity and action necessary to fulfill your goal or dream. Clarifying and identifying the end result and associated feelings and emotions through any of these exercises is useful preparation, and well worth the initial time investment. Spending even a few minutes each day to expand and FEEL your vision being realized is potent. I remember using this process years ago to attract my ideal relationship. So, I imagined myself sitting across the dinner table from someone I was very attracted to.  We were enjoying a delicious meal, and having a very connected conversation.  I was feeling so loved, so adored and so cherished.  For about 7 months I spent just a couple minutes each day focusing on this visualization. Then...in walked Mr. Adoring.  We shared lots of beautiful meals dining out, engaged in lots of conversation.  And, of course, I was very attracted to him.  Everything I'd included in my visualization stepped into my world. Not exactly sure why visualization works so well, but it does.  If you're committed to "connecting emotionally" to this vision regularly...you can expect them to show up in your life.  When we ALIGN with our visions...they show up in reality. For more information about visualizing, I highly recommend, "Creative Visualization" by Shatki Gawain. Happy Visualizing. Filed under Inner Peace 101, Inner Peace Strategies | Comment (0)

Inner Peace: New Year Creation – Process #2

On Tuesday, I talked about one way to emotionally connect to your vision by creating a Treasure Map or Vision Board. To learn more about creating your own Vision Board, go to www.ihaveavision.org and/or order the Vision Board book by Joyce Schwartz.  It'll give you loads of inspiring ideas. Remember, the most important element in crystallizing your vision is finding a medium that allows you to connect "emotionally" to your vision. We often identify goals and visions intellectually, yet find ourselves disassociated and not inspired to achieve them. The juice, inspiration and magic unfolds when we are "emotionally engaged" with our visions. If you've set goals in the past with disappointing results, this may be the missing ingredient. Being able to see, hear, FEEL and fully associate with what you DESIRE most, is the KEY to magnetizing it to you. Today we're focusing on... Process #2 - The Written Word From listing out 10 to 100 Goals in bullet format, to describing your vision in a paragraph with lots of juicy details...the written word is highly effective at engaging the senses. Write it down. Don't underestimate the power of taking a passing thought and giving it life on paper. The more you describe your vision in detail, the more REAL and associated it becomes in your nervous system. The secret here is finding the language to elicit the emotions in YOU. I like to challenge my clients to write a "vision paragraph" articulating their most important goals. You may include descriptors of the end result, including how you and others feel. It's also helpful to describe the process in which you achieved the goal. What resources did you access? What steps did you take? Was it easy or difficult? Again, what feelings & emotions are present? Below are some inspiring examples from various clients...some are short and some longer. WRITING VISION I am organizing and expressing my thoughts, feelings and experiences in a way that touches, inspires and empowers others to make new shifts, gain a better understanding of themselves & others, so they ultimately experience more abundance, love, energy, peace, joy and freedom inside themselves.  I am awakening lives to a higher possibility of themselves through books, articles and courses.  I am creatively pursuing new avenues of expression, such as media, including social media, to get my message out to more individuals in an enjoyable, and effective format that touches their hearts. HEALTH VISION

My body is in perfect balance, and allows me to move forward in life with an abundance of energy, ease and joy. I am flawless health. All my joints and muscles are flexible, free and supple. My hips, knee and elbow have healed completely. I love every part of my body, inside and out. Stretching is pure joy, as my body creates new space for consciousness every day. I am healed. My body feels wonderful and is free. I am incredibly fit and physically beautiful in every regard. I have shapely toned muscles and a flat stomach. Everyone tells me how hot and amazing I look, as I inspire others to elevate their own health. I am attracted to healthy foods and supplements that provide me with perfect nutrition that nourishes and heals me. My body easily eliminates what is doesn't need every day. My skin is radiant, clear and glows. I look younger and younger every day. My hair is strong, shiny and bright. I enjoy regular manicures and pedicures. My eyes are sparkling and allow me to see the world clearly. I sleep deeply at night, always feeling fully refreshed and alive the moment I wake up. I love and nurture my body as it supports me in everything that I do. My body is in perfect harmony.

LIVING IN FREEDOM VISION

I am living in a state of pure bliss and joy. I understand and easily recognize truth. I have substantially tamed my ego and have found a deeper connection inside myself that allows me to exude unconditional love and acceptance to all those I come in contact with. I live in the present moment, I truly accept “what is”, I live in states of peace, joy, love and appreciation. I am true to myself and Spirit. I am connected to myself, and truly love myself – and that is consistently reflected in my behavior and actions and self-talk. I am generous with others, and enjoy the practice of random acts of kindness. I am clear and centered in Spirit. I have truly integrated the teachings and learning of more than a decade into a life that is free, full of love, clarity and abundance. I’ve become a powerful and effective manifestor. I trust that everything I desire will ultimately come to pass, and it does. The notions of resistance, judgment, separation and defensiveness are like distant high school memories…faded and unimportant. When I notice a reaction inside myself, I almost automatically release it and allow love to flow in. I no longer feel the need to explain, justify, complain or defend myself. Who I am is enough. I serve my Highest Good without feeling guilty or ashamed. Staying connected to my Source is important to me, and I’ve released my fears of losing connection with others. When I’m connected to me, I am automatically connected to them and the world. When I’m true to myself, I give even more beautifully to others and I experience more love and respect from them in return. I no longer become confused at another's confusion, and continue to flow love if they temporarily forget that they love me. I know I am Lovable. I am worthy and deserving and abundant.

RELATIONSHIP VISION

I am ecstatically happy that I have connected with my life partner, and am so in love with him. I feel so at peace in committing by whole being to this beautiful soul. When the moment arrived, we both KNEW it was right, and melded into each other’s hearts and souls naturally, with resonance. He is everything I desire in a man - spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. We have an amazing chemistry that makes me melt, shiver and open more fully. I feel both vulnerable and yet completely held in his strength. His masculinity has freed my feminine spirit to dance, explore, let go and love even more deeply. I feel so adored, so loved, so cherished and so respected. He’s beautiful on the outside, but even more beautiful on the inside. He is a man of integrity and character, responsible, giving and generous. He is affectionate and romantic. He loves me unconditionally, honoring and accepting me for who I am – flaws and all. I feel free to be 100% me. He is also my teacher and gently invites me to learn and grow, supporting me to become even more of what I aspire to be. We share a desire and passion to learn and grow. We work through challenging moments gracefully and easily. I am inspired, awed and empowered to become the highest version of who I am because of his presence in my life. He is exceptionally fit and committed to his health. I trust and believe in him with every ounce of my being, which has given me unbelievable freedom, peace and joy. We feel so comfortable and at ease in each other’s company. We laugh, create joy out of any moment, and share a passion for life and experiencing it all. We also share in deep and soulful conversations, something we both enjoy immensely. Our soul connection continues to deepen over time. We enhance, enjoy and empower each others lives - loving each other unconditionally and share in open and honest communication, --- expressing and receiving love, energy and joy in all areas of life. We allow each other the freedom to be who they are, sharing their truth, experiencing feelings, while honoring each other. Our magical partnership inspires other couples of “what’s possible” in an intimate relationship. We continue to enjoy a passionate, sensual, spiritual intimate sexual relationship that brings ecstasy, love, nourishment, healing and power to each other. Our physical chemistry is beyond amazing. We fit together so well, and enjoy making love almost daily. We learn and grow together in a safe, nurturing and loving environment that brings out the best of each individual. We create a family together that exemplifies our love and provides a nurturing home to our amazing children.

Sign me up for all of the above.

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Inner Peace: New Year Creation

This week I'm offering four related processes for a clarifying your 2009 vision. Since each of us is wired differently, it's useful to find the most effective visioning strategy for you. Some people LOVE to write goals, others avoid the process. Some love details, while others are big picture people. Some people LOVE visualizations, and yet others do best in verbalizing their dreams to others. Which style or styles resonate with you? The most important element in crystallizing your vision is finding a medium that allows you to connect "emotionally" to your vision. We often identify goals and visions intellectually, yet find ourselves disassociated and not inspired to achieve them. The juice, inspiration and magic unfolds when we are "emotionally engaged" with our visions. If you've set goals in the past with disappointing results, this may be the missing ingredient. Being able to see, hear, FEEL and fully associate with what you DESIRE most, is the KEY to magnetizing it to you. If you desire an amazing relationship, how would you FEEL if that partner was already in your life? How would you treat them? What activities would you enjoy together? If you desire a thriving business, what activities would fill up your day? Who would you spend time with? How confident and decisive would you be? If you desire a fit and trim body, can you imagine yourself eating healthy foods and looking forward to visiting the gym? What would it feel like to be 15 pounds lighter? If you desire a year filled with INNER PEACE, what practices would you relax into daily? What would you say "no" to? How would it feel to bathe in bliss at any moment? ENGAGE the SENSES in your VISION Today we're focusing on... 1. Treasure Mapping - Creating a collage is an excellent way to engage the senses. This process involves finding pictures and words that capture your vision or visions. Magazines are great resources since advertising is designed to engage us emotionally. A picture says a thousand words...and at least a dozen emotions. A picture of a man and woman holding hands at the beach may embody feelings of romance, magic, love, connection and fulfillment. What body-type are you striving for? Where would you like to travel? What kind of home would you like to live in? Find the pictures that resonate with you. Look for words to embody that will support you in achieving your goals - in business or personal - such as "integrity", "confidence", "creativity", "value" or one of my favorites "joy". Create your own visuals when necessary with personal photos or Photoshop. In 2004 (and the last few years too!), I created an awesome treasure map, and nearly EVERYTHING on the poster came true. I "made-up" the concept of "Conversations with the Masters" that year...and interviewed three of the authors I had cut out pictures of - Byron Katie, Dr. David Hawkins and Wayne Dyer.  I've since interviewed dozens of Masters! I also had a picture of me and a wedding dress (I met my now husband in 2004). I also created a mock book cover, and something shifted in me when I saw "by Mary Allen" on the cover. It was August 2004 when all the pieces came together to get The Power of Inner Choice published!! I also cut out an Oprah Magazine cover and created a headline and put my picture on it. In August, I was noting all that I was manifesting and thought, "I wonder how this is going to happen (meaning Oprah)." About three days later, I received a call from The Oprah Winfrey Show. Use "treasure mapping" as a fun, creative way to expand your vision of what's possible. Doing this with a group is also inspiring. The visual creates an emotional connection that creates magic. What has been your experience with Treasure Mapping?  I'd love to hear your success stories. Come back tomorrow for the second key process...in your New Year Creation. Filed under Inner Peace Strategies | Comment (0)

Inner Peace Quote: Ernest A. Fitzgerald

"It is not by accident that the happiest people are those who make a conscious effort to live useful lives. Their happiness, of course, is not a shallow exhilaration where life is one continuous intoxicating party. Rather, their happiness is a deep sense of inner peace that comes when they believe their lives have meaning and that they are making a difference for good in the world."

--Ernest A. Fitzgerald

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Inner Peace Books: Mary’s Favorite Spiritual and Personal Development Reading

One of my dear friends created a list of books she's enjoyed reading and received a lot of value from.  She asked several of us to do the same and will be putting together a comprehensive list. Here's my list.  These aren't in any particular order. The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle A New Earth - Eckhart Tolle Loving What Is - Byron Katie (although prefer audio version) The Art of Extreme Self-Care - Cheryl Richardson Power vs. Force - Dr. David Hawkins The Eye of the I - Dr. David Hawkins I - Dr. David Hawkins The Dark Side of the Light Chasers - Debbie Ford The Right Questions - Debbie Ford The Five Love Languages - Gary Chapman Intimate Communion -David Deida Your Sacred Self -Wayne Dyer The Three Minute Meditator - David Harp Creative Visualization - Shatki Gawain Living in the Light - Shatki Gawain Way of the Peaceful Warrior - Dan Millman Centering and the Art of Intimacy - Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks Strengths Finder 2.0 - Tom Rath True Meditation - Adyashanti The Power of Inner Choice - Mary Allen Choosing to Be - Kat Tansey The Power of Intention - Wayne Dyer The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success - Deepak Chopra A Return to Love - Marianne Williamson The Unmistakable Touch of Grace - Cheryl Richardson The First 30 Days - Ariane de Bonvoisin Leadership and Self-Deception - Harbinger Institute The Celestine Prophecy - James Redfield Conversations with God - Neale Donald Walsh Taking Responsibility - Nathaniel Brandon Atlas Shrugged - Ayn Rand (fiction...but, impacted me as these other books did...maybe more so.) What are your favorite spiritual and personal development books...that aren't on this list? Happy reading. Filed under Inner Peace 101, Inner Peace Practices | Comment (0)