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Everyday Inner Peace Radio – Special Event – Aurora Winter

January 27th, 2009

Everyday Inner Peace Radio

presents…

LIVE Interview Recording
with Host Mary Allen

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Special Guest

Aurora Winter

January 27th, 2009

5-6:30pm Pacific
(8-9:30pm Eastern)

TO REGISTER for this No Cost Call visit…
http://www.lifecoachmary.com/aurorawinter.htm

* Are you sometimes at a loss for words to help your coaching clients or your friends?

* Do you wish you had better skills to help your coaching client or friend who is devastated by divorce, death, or another heartbreak?

* Would you like to learn the recipe for helping yourself – and others – go from heartbreak to happiness more quickly and easily?

Then you won’t want to miss the first live *Everyday Inner Peace Radio* SPECIAL event with my extraordinary friend AURORA WINTER.

I’ll soon be sharing more about my new *Everyday Inner Peace Radio* Show with http://www.exceptionalwisdomradio.com, a weekly radio show featuring authors, experts and real people who experience inner peace in extraordinary life situations.

Throughout the year, there will be 4-5 SPECIAL opportunities where YOU can eavesdrop in on the radio show recording…and participate by asking your questions of our guest.

Today…*Tuesday, January 27th at 5pm Pacific* (8pm Eastern) is our FIRST ever live radio taping with AURORA WINTER. And, you can attend at no cost to you.

I’ll be there with you, learning how to support others and myself in dealing with grief, and going from Heartbreak to Happiness.

More about Aurora and Coaching Clients in Crisis Continue reading »

Inner Peace: New Year Creation – Process #4

January 26th, 2009

Over the last week, we’ve been talking about ways to “emotionally connect” with your vision.  We talked about Treasure Mapping, writing your visions and visualizations.

Today we’re focusing on…

Process #4 – FINDING A THEME

What is your theme for the New Year 2009? This is not about your resolutions or specific goals with “do by” dates. This is your vision or dream for the upcoming year. What do you feel energy and excitement around? What engages your imagination and feels compelling? The beauty in adopting a theme is it naturally engages the senses unlike traditional “in the head” goal-setting. This does not have to be a linear process. You may use one or more of the ideas that become stimulated from the questions below. Select a theme for 2009.

You may want to create an inspiring atmosphere to do this exercise in – i.e. candles, music, nature, by a fire, etc. Have FUN with this process!

  • If your vision were a piece of music, what piece would it be?
  • If your vision was from nature what would it be? (Tree, ocean, brook….)
  • What does it taste like?
  • What does it smell like?
  • What other senses can you use to develop your vision?
  • What if your vision was a thousand times bigger? Describe what it would be.
  • Use a metaphor to describe your vision.
  • Are you forcing anything? Where can you ease off?
  • What can you take less seriously?
  • Are there any old rules you are holding on to? What can you eliminate?
  • How would a six-year-old describe your vision?
  • Ask yourself some “what if” questions. What if I ______?
  • Add one outrageous or wacky element to your vision.

Now that you’ve been exposed to all FOUR processes, which resonates with you? You may gravitate toward one them, or try them all. Each process engages the senses in a unique way.

The first step is taking the time to clarify and refine your vision – and FULLY ASSOCIATING EMOTIONALLY with that vision. That alone can be effective at creating unbelievable momentum throughout the year.

Secondly, super-charge your visions by revisiting your treasure maps, written goals and visions, themes or spend time visualizing – CONSISTENTLY. While you may utilize one of more of these processes in creating your vision, I recommend selecting ONE process to revisit on a regular basis.

That means monthly, weekly or ideally daily.

The more often you connect to your vision emotionally, engaging your senses, the more quickly you are likely to experience it reality. Try it.

May 2009 be your best year ever…

I’ll be sharing more about my new theme for 2009…stay tuned.

Inner Peace: New Year Creation – Process #3

January 25th, 2009

On Friday, I talked about writing your visions onto paper in a very descriptive way, usually language that allows you to “emotionally connect” with your vision.

Remember, the most important element in crystallizing your vision is finding a medium that allows you to connect “emotionally” to your vision.

Today we’re focusing on…

Process #3 – VISUALIZATIONS

Using the power of your mind to cultivate and embody your vision is a powerful resource.

Once again, the more detail and emotion you can FEEL and bring to life in your body, the more effective it is in eliciting the inspiration, creativity and action necessary to fulfill your goal or dream. Clarifying and identifying the end result and associated feelings and emotions through any of these exercises is useful preparation, and well worth the initial time investment. Spending even a few minutes each day to expand and FEEL your vision being realized is potent.

I remember using this process years ago to attract my ideal relationship.

So, I imagined myself sitting across the dinner table from someone I was very attracted to.  We were enjoying a delicious meal, and having a very connected conversation.  I was feeling so loved, so adored and so cherished.  For about 7 months I spent just a couple minutes each day focusing on this visualization.

Then…in walked Mr. Adoring.  We shared lots of beautiful meals dining out, engaged in lots of conversation.  And, of course, I was very attracted to him.  Everything I’d included in my visualization stepped into my world.

Not exactly sure why visualization works so well, but it does.  If you’re committed to “connecting emotionally” to this vision regularly…you can expect them to show up in your life.  When we ALIGN with our visions…they show up in reality.

For more information about visualizing, I highly recommend, “Creative Visualization” by Shatki Gawain.

Happy Visualizing.

Inner Peace: New Year Creation – Process #2

January 23rd, 2009

On Tuesday, I talked about one way to emotionally connect to your vision by creating a Treasure Map or Vision Board. To learn more about creating your own Vision Board, go to www.ihaveavision.org and/or order the Vision Board book by Joyce Schwartz.  It’ll give you loads of inspiring ideas.

Remember, the most important element in crystallizing your vision is finding a medium that allows you to connect “emotionally” to your vision. We often identify goals and visions intellectually, yet find ourselves disassociated and not inspired to achieve them. The juice, inspiration and magic unfolds when we are “emotionally engaged” with our visions. If you’ve set goals in the past with disappointing results, this may be the missing ingredient. Being able to see, hear, FEEL and fully associate with what you DESIRE most, is the KEY to magnetizing it to you.

Today we’re focusing on…

Process #2 – The Written Word

From listing out 10 to 100 Goals in bullet format, to describing your vision in a paragraph with lots of juicy details…the written word is highly effective at engaging the senses.

Write it down.

Don’t underestimate the power of taking a passing thought and giving it life on paper. The more you describe your vision in detail, the more REAL and associated it becomes in your nervous system. The secret here is finding the language to elicit the emotions in YOU.

I like to challenge my clients to write a “vision paragraph” articulating their most important goals.

You may include descriptors of the end result, including how you and others feel. It’s also helpful to describe the process in which you achieved the goal. What resources did you access? What steps did you take? Was it easy or difficult? Again, what feelings & emotions are present?

Below are some inspiring examples from various clients…some are short and some longer. Continue reading »

Inner Peace: New Year Creation

January 20th, 2009

This week I’m offering four related processes for a clarifying your 2009 vision. Since each of us is wired differently, it’s useful to find the most effective visioning strategy for you. Some people LOVE to write goals, others avoid the process. Some love details, while others are big picture people. Some people LOVE visualizations, and yet others do best in verbalizing their dreams to others.

Which style or styles resonate with you?

The most important element in crystallizing your vision is finding a medium that allows you to connect “emotionally” to your vision. We often identify goals and visions intellectually, yet find ourselves disassociated and not inspired to achieve them. The juice, inspiration and magic unfolds when we are “emotionally engaged” with our visions.

If you’ve set goals in the past with disappointing results, this may be the missing ingredient. Being able to see, hear, FEEL and fully associate with what you DESIRE most, is the KEY to magnetizing it to you. Continue reading »

Inner Peace Quote: Ernest A. Fitzgerald

January 19th, 2009

“It is not by accident that the happiest people
are those who make a conscious effort to live useful lives.
Their happiness, of course,
is not a shallow exhilaration where life
is one continuous intoxicating party.
Rather, their happiness is a deep sense of inner peace
that comes when they believe their lives have meaning
and that they are making a difference for good in the world.”

–Ernest A. Fitzgerald

Inner Peace Books: Mary’s Favorite Spiritual and Personal Development Reading

January 18th, 2009

One of my dear friends created a list of books she’s enjoyed reading and received a lot of value from.  She asked several of us to do the same and will be putting together a comprehensive list.

Here’s my list.  These aren’t in any particular order.

The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle
A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle
Loving What Is – Byron Katie (although prefer audio version)
The Art of Extreme Self-Care – Cheryl Richardson
Power vs. Force – Dr. David Hawkins
The Eye of the I – Dr. David Hawkins
I – Dr. David Hawkins
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers – Debbie Ford
The Right Questions – Debbie Ford
The Five Love Languages – Gary Chapman
Intimate Communion -David Deida
Your Sacred Self -Wayne Dyer
The Three Minute Meditator – David Harp
Creative Visualization – Shatki Gawain
Living in the Light – Shatki Gawain
Way of the Peaceful Warrior – Dan Millman
Centering and the Art of Intimacy – Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks
Strengths Finder 2.0 – Tom Rath
True Meditation – Adyashanti
The Power of Inner Choice – Mary Allen
Choosing to Be – Kat Tansey
The Power of Intention – Wayne Dyer
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success – Deepak Chopra
A Return to Love – Marianne Williamson
The Unmistakable Touch of Grace – Cheryl Richardson
The First 30 Days – Ariane de Bonvoisin
Leadership and Self-Deception – Harbinger Institute
The Celestine Prophecy – James Redfield
Conversations with God – Neale Donald Walsh
Taking Responsibility – Nathaniel Brandon
Atlas Shrugged – Ayn Rand (fiction…but, impacted me as these other books did…maybe more so.)

What are your favorite spiritual and personal development books…that aren’t on this list?

Happy reading.